Why are we so afraid of failure? As toddlers, we lost our balance and fell, over and over until we learned to walk. One isn’t possible without the other.
Failure is one of the best ways we learn – as long as we can make honey from it. Think of a recent failure you have experienced. Go to sleep tonight and request the golden bees of your heart and spirit to find a way to turn it into sweet honey.
“’No’” is a complete sentence.”
― Anne Lamott
I have written in the past about the value of saying “yes” to new ideas, experiences and perspectives. As with anything, however, there is always the other side of the coin: the value of saying “no.”
Many of my coaching clients, find themselves overworked, overwhelmed and completely exhausted. All too often, this is because they don’t say “no.” They need to be able to say, “no, my plate is already full” or “no, I can’t do that now, but I could do it with additional staff/funding/time [etc.].”
Often, it is women leaders in mission-driven organizations who find it most difficult to set boundaries at work Read more
About a year ago, I decided to try to live my life similar to the way improv actors practice their art. In improv, this means saying “yes and” – never disagreeing with your fellow actor and instead accepting their ideas and adding to them.
My approach is a little different in that my goal was to say “yes” when I might otherwise have automatically said, “no” – “No, that ‘s not the kind of person I am,” or “No, I don’t like things like that,” or “No, that’s not the way I do things,” or “No, that’s not the way I see things,” and perhaps most importantly, “No, I’m not comfortable with that” or “No, that feels risky.” Read more
Hoarding your joys and despairs
As if they were clothes
You brought but never wore
Look at this bright shirt:
A possibility you glimpsed
But feared to seize.
The beloved is waiting.
You have a date.
Put on that shirt before it fades.”
-Gregory Orr, from How Beautiful the Beloved
Do you have dreams that you’re hoarding and keeping hidden away in your closet? Are there opportunities that you see by allow to pass you by?
Take the New Year as your chance to go ahead, put on the bright shirts of your dreams, and try on the outfits of possibilities that are all around you.
Wishing you peace, joy and bright clothes of all kinds in the New Year!
“Believe in a love that is being stored up for you like an inheritance, and have faith that in this love there is a strength and a blessing so large that you can travel as far as you wish without having to step outside it.”
―Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet
It is easy sometimes to feel alone and unloved. But, this is merely one viewpoint. What if you decided to look at things differently?
What if you choose to simply believe that there is a love being stored up for you – that is your inheritance simply because you exist? What if in that love there is a strength and a blessing so large that no matter where you go or what you do, you are surrounded by it?
Spend the rest of today moving forward choosing to believe that you are surrounded by this inheritance of love. What is possible for you when you choose to believe that?