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Take a Moment of Reflection – Saying No

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“’No’” is a complete sentence.”
― Anne Lamott

I have written in the past about the value of saying “yes” to new ideas, experiences and perspectives. As with anything, however, there is always the other side of the coin: the value of saying “no.”

Many of my coaching clients, find themselves overworked, overwhelmed and completely exhausted. All too often, this is because they don’t say “no.” They need to be able to say, “no, my plate is already full” or “no, I can’t do that now, but I could do it with additional staff/funding/time [etc.].”

Often, it is women leaders in mission-driven organizations who find it most difficult to set boundaries at work Read more

Take a Moment of Reflection – Saying Yes

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About a year ago, I decided to try to live my life similar to the way improv actors practice their art. In improv, this means saying “yes and” – never disagreeing with your fellow actor and instead accepting their ideas and adding to them.

My approach is a little different in that my goal was to say “yes” when I might otherwise have automatically said, “no” – “No, that ‘s not the kind of person I am,” or “No, I don’t like things like that,” or “No, that’s not the way I do things,” or “No, that’s not the way I see things,” and perhaps most importantly, “No, I’m not comfortable with that” or “No, that feels risky.” Read more

Take a Moment of Reflection: Put on Bright Clothes in the New Year!


Hoarding your joys and despairs
As if they were clothes
You brought but never wore

Look at this bright shirt:
A possibility you glimpsed
But feared to seize.

The beloved is waiting.
You have a date.
Put on that shirt before it fades.”
-Gregory Orr, from How Beautiful the Beloved


Do you have dreams that you’re hoarding and keeping hidden away in your closet? Are there opportunities that you see by allow to pass you by?

Take the New Year as your chance to go ahead, put on the bright shirts of your dreams, and try on the outfits of possibilities that are all around you.

Wishing you peace, joy and bright clothes of all kinds in the New Year!

Take a Moment of Reflection: Believe in a Love Being Stored up for You


Believe in a love that is being stored up for you like an inheritance, and have faith that in this love there is a strength and a blessing so large that you can travel as far as you wish without having to step outside it.”
―Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet


It is easy sometimes to feel alone and unloved. But, this is merely one viewpoint. What if you decided to look at things differently?

What if you choose to simply believe that there is a love being stored up for you – that is your inheritance simply because you exist? What if in that love there is a strength and a blessing so large that no matter where you go or what you do, you are surrounded by it?

Spend the rest of today moving forward choosing to believe that you are surrounded by this inheritance of love. What is possible for you when you choose to believe that?

Take a Moment of Reflection: To Tell the Truth

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When I was much younger, there was a TV show called, To Tell the Truth. In it, three people would come on the show and present themselves to a celebrity panel. One of the three people had a unique story to tell – they had an unusual occupation or experience – while the other two pretended to be that person. The panel had to determine who was telling the truth. The two imposters were allowed to lie while the person being her/himself was required to tell the truth.

When I think about that game now, I think the person required to tell the truth had the most difficult job. Why do I say that? Because sometimes I’m afraid to tell the truth even though I hold truth-telling as a major value. When I say “I,” I don’t mean my conscious self, I mean my subconscious self. I’m not aware that I’m not telling myself the truth. It’s that at a subconscious level, I’m afraid to access my deepest feelings. And, like the beautiful poem, Our Deepest Fear, by Marianne Williamson, it’s usually because I’m afraid to stop being small and to dream big – afraid to trust and believe in myself or afraid to admit that I want a more expansive life.

What dreams are you hiding from yourself? What would it take for you to believe in yourself?

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